Gay/Homosexual Male: A man who is primarily attracted to other men to the exclusion of other genders. This includes trans men who are attracted to other men. This can also include men who are attracted to genders that present masculine traits, though pansexual may be a better term depending on the circumstances.
So, how might you go about creating your own gay character? These questions will help you discover more about your character’s orientation and how it impacts their life and relationships.
How do other characters react to your character’s orientation?
How does your character react/respond to these reactions?
How does the society in your story react to gays?
How does this affect your character? What assumptions do others have about gays/your character?
When did/will your character realize that they were attracted to males?
How does/will your character think/feel about this? Is the realization because of a specific event, a gradual understanding/coming to terms, etc?
How does your character express their gender?
Whether by choice/effort or naturally, in terms of presenting, passing, self-image and comfort? Do they express their gender a certain way in the hopes of finding other gay men?
How does your character tell people about being a gay man (if they tell people at all)?
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Writing a Gay Character
As with writing any character, their sexuality is just one part of their whole identity. When writing your gay character here are a few things to keep in mind:
- You can have your character specifically state they are gay. This will help the reader understand where your character is coming from. Having other characters react and ask questions will help mitigate an info dump. Many readers will reject a queer coded character unless it is specifically stated, but this is your decision to make.
- It might be best to avoid having them be a so-called ‘flaming gay’ as this can perpetuate harmful attitudes toward femininity and can promote the idea that gay men want to be women. If you choose to write a such a character please be careful of using feminine stereotypes for their characterization.
- Do let your character have close intimate non-sexual/non-romantic relationships with characters of all genders. Being gay doesn’t mean your character will be attracted to every man they meet. Be clear on character intent and watch wording to avoid confusing your reader.
Before writing a coming out story think carefully about whether or not this is your story to tell. Every person’s story is different and if you yourself are not a gay man this might not be your story to tell.
Be mindful of the character’s ‘gaze’ or how they describe other characters as they can end up seemingly sexually attracted to people you didn’t intend and can lead to reader confusion as to their sexuality.
Be very careful about having your gay character die, suffer tragedy or mental illness as this is an incredibly harmful trope and should be handled with the utmost care.
Try to avoid making your character gay simply as a plot device. It should be an integral part of who they are, not a quirk.
Things to Keep in Mind
Gay men are increasingly the subject of queer experience appropriation, infantilization and fetishization in stories. The popularity of the ‘slash’ (M/M) genre has perpetuated some very harmful stereotypes, tropes and the continued fetishizing of gay relationships. It has also led to the stereotype of white cis-gendered gay men being the default ‘gay’ seen in media. This excludes gay men of other races and gay trans men.
Tropes are tropes for a reason and most of these are not bad in and of themselves, however like a lot of tropes they often perpetuate harmful stereotypes and thus should be used cautiously. Some include:
Agent Peacock | All Gays Love Theater | All Gays Are Pedophiles | All Gays Are Promiscuous | All the Good Men Are Gay | Always Camp | Ambiguously Gay | Anything That Moves | Armoured Closet Gay | Badass Gay | The Bear | The Beard | Big Beautiful Man | Bury Your Gays | But Not Too Gay | Camp Gay | Camp Straight | Cast Full of Gay | Closet Key | Club Kid | Coming-Out Story | Cure Your Gays | Depraved Homosexual | Everyone Is Gay | Experimented in College | Faux Yay | Flying Under the Gaydar | Forced Out of the Closet | Gay Aesop | Gay Best Friend | Gay Bravado | Gay Conservative | Gay Cowboy | Gay Groom in a White Tux | Gay Guy Seeks Popular Jock | Gayngst | Gym Bunny | Have I Mentioned I am Gay?: | Have You Tried Not Being a Monster? | Hello, Sailor! | If It’s You, It’s Okay | Lover and Beloved | Macho Camp | Magical Queer | Manly Gay | Nobody Over 50 Is Gay | Sissy Villain | Transparent Closet | The Twink | Word of Gay: Word of God
Gays in Fiction
Gay men have been written about since the 1st Century and have been a constant fixture in human society all through the ages. A list of books featuring appropriate and accurate representation of gay men is a subject for debate.
Famous Gay Men in History
Alexander the Great | Michelangelo | Leonardo da Vinci | Oscar Wilde |
Alan Turing | Emperor Hadrian | Baron Friedrich Wilhelm von Steuben | Babur | William Lygon, 7th Earl Beauchamp | Cyrano de Bergerac | Leonard Bernstein | Marlon Brando | Ferdinand I of Bulgaria | Caligula | Jean Jacques Régis de Cambacérès | Truman Capote | Giacomo Casanova | Pyotr Ilyich Tchaikovsky | Tennessee Williams
Gallup Special Report: Adults Identifying as LGBT
Do you, personally, identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender?
Gallup Daily tracking
June 1-Sept. 30, 2012
Here’s What Never to Say When Dating a Gay Black Man
Australia / Great Britain / Europe
The stereotypes against gay men are much the same in most of Great Britain and Europe. Gay men are seen as effeminate, ‘bitchy’ people whose only thought is partying and getting laid.
Homosexuality was illegal up until 1997 in China. Currently MOGAI persons in China have no legal rights or protections and can be discriminated against for any number of reasons.
China’s legal Position and Status Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender People
While it’s not illegal to be gay in Russia there are very strict laws about homosexuality and being openly gay can get you arrested and put in jail.